How do you become a Samoan Matai?
The good news is, if you’re even a little bit Samoan I’m 99.9% sure you’re the suli (heir) to at least one matai title.
Once a title becomes available, any suli can petition for it.
He or she just has to have some support (it doesn’t hurt to have other matai or well respected elders arguing for you) and also, ideally, a track record of service to the family.
O le ala i le pule, o le tautua
..is a well-known Samoan proverb that means, “The path to leadership is service”.
You might find that your bid to become a matai is much better supported if your family can see how much you love and labour (and contribute financially to fa’alavelave *cough*) for them.
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